Are you ready to explore the unknown?
“One does not discover new lands without consenting to lose sight of the shore for a very long time.” André Gide
When you drill down into observing and understanding how and why you have chosen unhealthy, unsustainable, and self-sabotaging behavior in regards to your relationship with food, what you find might excite you. However, chances are, if you have food addiction, yo-yo dieting, binge eating or self sabotage behavior, what you find behind the scenes, will more likely, scare you. Why?
Because if you truly have a look at what has been driving your choices, you will have to face head on, that you have been fueled by false, outmoded, beliefs. As you dig deeper you might discover that you have spent a lifetime investing and acting on false beliefs appearing as truth. These beliefs were shaped and formed early on from the interpretations from your early developmental thinking and child perspective.
The child interprets what goes on around them and how others treat them, from a child’s viewpoint.
Here Have A Cookie
Let me give you an example: More often than not, we were taught that having emotion is not ok. How many times have you seen a child who is crying in the supermarket or throwing a tantrum and the response is: “Here have a cookie,” or “If you stop crying I will buy you an ice cream.”
Perhaps you were never allowed to simply feel what you were feeling.
I was told: “If you don’t stop crying I’ll give you a real reason to cry!”
I found the best way to comfort myself when I was not allowed to feel my feelings, be heard or allowed to voice my upset, was to self soothe using candy & chocolate.
Turning to chocolate I got an immediate sense of pleasure that helped me to quickly shift my focus. Each bite helped to melt my discomfort. The equation was : upset + eat chocolate = melting & easing of “bad” feelings. I got a physical, tangible felt sense of soothing and an endorphin rush in my brain center.
You could have been told the most loving message from caring parents who truly meant well… “Here, sweetheart, it’s all going to be ok, let’s go get a chocolate ice cream (that will fix everything and make it all better.)”
When the message you got as a child was it was either not ok to feel what you were feeling or what you were feeling was denied or minimized, you might have split off from your true inner knowing. When, inside yourself, something hurt or felt intuitively wrong and you were told everything is fine just stop your fussing…a part of yourself got split off from the part of you that innately knew and felt something.
From subtle ways to obvious, perhaps you were not able to develop a healthy sense of how to be present with yourself in your pain, hurt, sadness, hunger, or loneliness and missed developing the ability to listen to and honor what you were feeling and intuitively knew to be true. Perhaps the message you told yourself was, “What I naturally know or feel inside of me is wrong. I can’t trust what I feel or know.” These core messages and beliefs were not formed in obvious sentences as such, but became underlying interpretations from the child thinking process. Imagine if you believe you can’t trust your inner knowing, what do you think might happen to your intuitive knowing & abilities?
Instead of being taught or modeled how to lovingly take care of yourself and nourish yourself well, or to be present with and deal with whatever feelings were coming up, something else was modeled which the child took on as a belief. Sadly this disconnection would disempower intuitive knowing.
The strategy and choices you came up with back then to cope with repressed feelings or experiencing loneliness, fear, overwhelm, boredom, pain, intensity and even hunger, got repeated and over time became unconscious, “go to habits”. The accumulated result of these habits lands you in the muck of feeling stuck, trapped and unhappy with your present state.
When You Can’t Go Back And You Can’t Go Forward
When you see this, for what it is, yet also find yourself continuing to do what you have always done…Surely what you will face is hopelessness and powerlessness. Equally scary is the realization that you can’t bare the thought of defeat and knowing that your future holds more of this vicious cycle. Vicious, because every loop back around rakes you over the coals of your own sense of letting yourself down, failure to overcome and reaping the consequences in body and mind from your poor choices.
Perhaps you have attempted a new program or product but sooner or later hit the wall of overwhelm. Maybe that is how you feel right now?
For example, you could be in our program asked to give up coffee and on day three wake up with a terrible headache and feel horrible. You could be feeling way worse than you did when you began. In fact you felt better before you started when you were eating junk and processed foods. You might wonder why to continue when eating PURE makes you feel so awful.
It truly is easier to do what you have always done. This is the pull of the path of least resistance. However you will just end up right back here sooner or later. Yes you could just drink the coffee and your headache will go away. Much easier than riding out the storm of detox.
Stop for a minute. Can you relate to any of this so far?
If you can relate to this …then do you realize right now you have a choice?
Out Of Connection With Yourself
Do you experience a split inside yourself where you can be sincerely committed to your health and weight goals and then before you know it, the slightest trigger can trip you up? It can be anything, any excuse…The true food addict will use a party or a death, a celebration or getting fired, any and all reasons.
One of the key reasons to run to food is when you are flooded with emotions especially fear, loss, pain or overwhelm. The driving force is looking for a way to cope and a way to numb out. Using food can be an attempt to find a landing place to put those emotions. The driving force, steering you in the direction of your choices is an auto pilot, on self preservation mode…
The driving voice says: Avoid facing and feeling those feelings/emotions at all cost, even if it means derailing. The auto-pilot takes over and makes instant “split” decisions. The split takes you into a familiar landing place that is believed to be safe, because it is known. The landing place might be all you have ever known or what your family of origin taught you and how they responded to these same emotional triggers. But the landing place could very well be quicksand… or pudding, a giant bowl of whipped cream or a big huge piece of chocolate cake.
When you are on auto-pilot you are not in control. Auto- pilot is in control. What if you found out that auto-pilot is really only as savvy as the little child who learned these coping mechanisms. The one steering your choices is the mind and voice of the little you, who formed the beliefs and took on the habits time and time again over your entire lifetime.
Those beliefs and habits have been transporting you from one scenario to the next over and over again your whole life. You have lived letting auto-pilot take over so long you forgot there are other possibilities.
NOTE TO SELF: Remember, the voice of auto-pilot is NOT the inner knowing/intuitive voice.
From Lost To Connected…
Maybe you have come far enough in your process that you are desperate to find another way. This is especially true if you have had a recent incident of self-sabotage, letting yourself down and breaking your own intentions, YET AGAIN.
When it becomes clear there is a HUGE disconnect with what you say you want and what you choose to do, and you feel powerless to break this self-sabotage cycle… Welcome. When you face the fact that you have not only lost confidence in yourself, but trusting your own resolve and this grieves you and makes you feel hopeless… then welcome. Welcome to being open to the possibility of getting support and help.
There comes a time when the fear of the unknown is less than the fear of staying stuck. To continue to do what you have always done means staying disconnected and split. The split is where you are out of integrity with yourself. You truly want to have self control and nourish yourself well, yet you are powerless with your out of control behavior. And here is the kicker. Whenever you feel overwhelmed or out of control, you are triggered to eat out of control. Your relationship with food reflects what is happening in your inner landscape.
Opening To Possibilities
If you can relate to this, I want to assure you that facing your self sabotage, powerlessness & feeling like giving up are all part of what can propel you to being desperate. This can be a good thing because you are reaching brokenness.
Celebrate and embrace brokenness because it is at this point where you are most likely to be coachable, to let down your guard, and open to new, unknown possibilities. Here is the good news. You don’t have to figure out what the unknown transformation possibilities are. You just have to want them and be open to them. And maybe, just maybe…this is what it takes to really, really want transformation. You have to passionately want it! Nothing like hitting bottom and facing your powerlessness to create the motivation and openness to receive transformation. When you are truly open to finding another way, you will be surprised at what shows up. Do you truly want transformation? Have you had to grovel with your powerlessness? What new, unrecognizable possibilities have showed up for you?
The Way Forward:
This is what we teach and coach you in the PURE Fast & Listen Course
2. Clear Intentions
3. Choice + Action = Transformation
4. Developing your Intuitive Abilities and learning to apply that to eating and cooking.
5. Applying the above with eating PURE, raw and nutrient dense foods along with intermittent fasting.
6. Intermittent fasting is the gateway to intuitive listening.