NOTE: Welcome to those of you joining the virtual journey into the PURE Fast & Listen Online Coaching Course.
Two QUESTIONS were posted on the group private FB page yesterday:
- 1. What is your biggest fear about the course?
- 2. What have been the consequences with your relationship with food?
In yesterday’s blog post (Session #2) I shared some of the responses to the above questions as well as my coaching comments. (click the link if you want to catch up)
Today I am listening deeper and putting together in my mind what overall shape the group is in as they are in the beginning/prepatory phase of the course. I am listening closely to discern what are legitimate concerns for people who do not have any experience with this whole thing, with all it entails vs. what are people’s excuses, fears, or rationalizations.
Within those last three (excuses, fears and rationalizations) I am listening deeper to hear the voice of the addict. When I hear the food-aholic voice, I listen to who is truly ready to transform vs. those who use excuses or blame other people or circumstances in their life to stay in denial. These very old strategies are defense mechanisms that have wrapped their tentacles tightly around the conscious part of their being. The part that wants to come up for air and taste freedom.
Breaking the food addiction chains that bind (especially the ones comprised of sugar) is without a doubt, for some, as challenging as drug addiction.
There rages a battle in the inner landscape of the food addict. Some have it in a much more sublte form than others. The most common scenario is “the inner split.” One part of the person that truly loves to eat healthy and nourish themself well and another part just goes, hog wild, bananas (American expressions for bonkers) from time to time with food lust and wild abandon. Unlike those who have Binge Eating Disorder (click to read How To Overcome Binge Eating Disorder The PURE Healthy Way), these food frenzies are not constant and are often triggered by social eating and occassions or stress.
In every course we teach, we allocate the first 2 weeks as training and preparation time to get everyone up to speed and in shape for the 21 Days of Intermittent Fasting marathon.
From the responses I read from yesterday’s posts, I hear legitimate concerns comingled with addicts who sincerely want to transform and know they need help and then sadly the few who are just not ready to face it.
Today’s questions are meant to drill down deeper
GROUP QUESTION #3 How much or in what way does the sting/pain of realizing the consequences of your choices and relationship with food motivate or compell you to move forward?
GROUP QUESTION #4: Being brutally honest with yourself do you notice any tendencies to blame other people or circumstances for why and how you eat?
I am purposely pressing for hard boiled answers. It is a weeding out process. In order for people to truly transform, there can be no more straddling the fence, choosing to blame, make excuses or remain in denial.
If people can’t see their blind spots that is one thing but when they continue to choose to dance around in circles, they are not on the course heading in the direction they say they want to go, to achieve their stated outcomes.
The Three Essential Ingredients For Success
- Taking Full Responsibility For Your Choices (zero blame talk)
- Willingness To Be Teachable/Coached
- Being In Integrity (actions are in alignment with what you say you want)
The pace has shifted and we are approaching boot camp. This is a juncture where some people get the boot because they simple aren’t ready to run the course.
Today is a great day to decide if you are ready and if you truly are willing to do what it takes to achieve your goals. It’s up to you and it’s all about choosing.
If you have come along on this journey via the virtual read you can still make a choice to be a part of The PURE Healthy Way by signing up on www.purehealthway.com to receive a FREE copy of our book.
Begin reading all of chapter 4 and you will be on the same homework page as the PURE Fast & Listen course members.